Need help writing your wedding vows for your big day?! If you are on the fence about writing your own wedding vows for your special day, Rich & Kitch say go for it, since your own wedding vows add a personal touch to your wedding ceremony. When it comes to writing your wedding vows, don't worry, Rich & Kitch are here to help you, too! We're sharing our wedding vows to inspire yours, and a FREE wedding vow thought starter worksheet to help you write your own wedding vows, so keep reading for Rich & Kitch tips!
photo by Anna Gomes | wedding vow books liked here
At first, I didn’t want to say our own vows since I thought I would be too emotional, but I’m so glad Richie persuaded me to write our own. I also thought I would be a little nervous saying my vows in front of people, but the people you are saying them in front of are your friends & family so that is just a silly thought to have!
A common wedding regret we hear from brides & grooms after they get married is that they did NOT write their own vows, so keep that in mind before you count out writing your own vows altogether.
When it comes to writing your wedding vows, Rich & Kitch's best advice is to have them be sentimental & meaningful, while keeping them funny & lighthearted, too! Here are some key points to touch on in your wedding vows:
Reasons you love each other.
Something funny/lighthearted that people probably know about you (telling an inside joke might resonate with the two of you, but not everyone else).
Make your promises for what you vow your marriage to be about.
Your wedding vows should reflect your personality, so do what works for you!
Now that you know the main things to include in your wedding vows, here are some tips for actually writing them:
Outline your ideas. We recommend typing them out & saving them in a safe place so you can easily make edits!
Don’t feel like you have to include everything you want to say; you are getting married so you know you love each other, even if you don’t say it all in your vows.
Keep your wedding vows short & sweet so they are memorable & not boring for your guests! Our vows were no longer than one minute each.
Don’t wait until the last minute to write them! Your wedding day will be hectic, so don’t try to wake up the morning of your wedding to get them done.
Reference ideas from other people’s wedding vows (like ours below 😉)
Get inspired by your favorite songs, quotes, books, etc.
Once you’ve finalized your wedding vows, it’s time to get them wedding day-ready! So we recommend:
Writing them in a cute wedding vow book (these are the ones we used). Even if you memorize your wedding vows, you might get more nervous than you think on the day of the wedding, so keep them handy! You don’t want to forget all the important things you want to say!
Practice reading your vows out loud before the big day! Time yourself & make sure the way you are saying your vows is how you want them to sound (especially if you get nervous speaking in front of people).
Keep your wedding vows a secret unless you think you’ll be too emotional. If that is the case, then talk to your partner about reading them beforehand so you know what to expect (we did this!)
photo by Anna Gomes
As promised, here are the wedding vows Richie & I said to each other on our wedding day to inspire yours!
Richie, thank you for being the best teammate & accepting me for all that I am. You’ve brought out the best qualities in me like being more outgoing, and you’ve allowed me to bring out the best qualities in you like being more organized. I know I can always count on you to go to the gym with me every morning, and I’m thankful to always have your help executing the weekly meal plan. I promise to be patient with you even when you are driving me crazy with your endless energy because that quality of lighting up any situation is one of the many things I love about you. I also love your loyalty, thoughtfulness, and how much you care for others. Today, I promise to always support you, be loyal to you, and show you the same care for the rest of my life. I have loved you for the past 7 years & will continue to love you, through our greatest moments & unpredictable struggles. I can’t wait to call you my husband & continue to go all-in on life with you until death do us part.
Kelsey, You are my forever better half. My soulmate & swolemate. You make the 2 of us a dream team. You push me & challenge me, hold me to the highest standards, & I will always love you for that. You are my rock. You stand by me and give me a foundation in the hardest of times, which then leads us to have so many more fun times in this adventure of life together! You are smarter than I have ever known, I love your kind heart, your loyalty, your drive for success, your determination, your creativity, and most of all the way you giggle at my jokes! I promise to love you, cherish you, protect you, guide & support you through sickness & in health, through our greatest moments & struggles, for all eternity. I can’t wait to call you my wife & go all-in on life with you until death do us part.
Are you ready to start writing your wedding vows now?! Click here or the image below for your free wedding planning worksheet that includes wedding vow thought-starter questions. This FREE PDF will help you easily write meaningful wedding vows to make your wedding ceremony more personable & have great memories of your special day!
It is 100% worth it to write your own wedding vows! All of our family & friends told us how much they loved our vows! And, watching snippets of our wedding vows in our Love Story video by Lands End Films brings back the best memories; you can watch our wedding video here!
If you are on the fence about writing your wedding vows, just go for it! And if you are struggling to get started, download our free worksheet & just start! Writing your wedding vows is a serious matter as they are something you & your partner will reflect on for the rest of your lives, but they don’t have to be daunting to write. Just have fun with it & say why you love each other! Saying your wedding vows is one of the best parts of the wedding ceremony, and Rich & Kitch know that whatever you come up with will be amazing!
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